Last week I discussed some statistics of what is going on with our kids – increasing levels of anxiety, sadness, fears and depression.
Recently, “The New York Times” interviewed school counselors on what they are currently seeing within their schools. Here are some of the quotes…
“Kids have the highest level of anxiety I’ve ever seen: anxiety about basic safety & fear of what could happen.”
“I’ve seen more physical fights this year than in my 15 years combined.”
“The foundational skills for learning need to be retaught.”
“Kids are more impulsive, less controlled & struggle with emotional regulation.”
“Students are less bought into school, less excited about life after high school.”
It can be overwhelming to read the latest articles or opinion pieces on the mental health of kids. There are seemingly endless stories about how kids are struggling; an avalanche of statistics, BUT no real stories of success, or what’s working. What are some solutions of how to make things better?
One tip that can help:
Last week I suggested asking children their thoughts about a given event? What are their feelings? What are their fears? Sometimes, this tact can work best with a younger child, but as they get older they become less apt to want to share. As parents it can feel intolerable to sit in the darkness and not know what your kids are feeling. We tend to want to reassure them and quickly move into fix it mode. Sometimes, bearing witness to their pain and fear, as well as their questions is the best way to provide comfort. Sit and just listen.
What have you noticed in your home with your kids? What’s worked? What kind of support are you giving your kids?
I’d love to hear from you and share some ideas with the group.
I do believe that “It Does Take a Village” when trying to bring calm and understanding into our worlds when we are all feeling similar levels of emotion.
That is why I would like to invite you to join me for a parenting group to share your concerns, talk to like minded parents and get supported through group discussion. We all miss the camaraderie of a group; let’s be there for one another & help each other navigate our own stories of success. Lightness & Levity included:)